I think it’s weird that as a kid I never wanted to live with my dad due to fear of physical abuse and now that I’m older and my dad’s in therapy it’s like the best place too live.
Ayyy, you seem like you have a good head on your shoulders. At the end of the day your choice is your choice. Parents say things like that cause they feel backed into a corner about losing control over an aspect of their lives. They are almost certainly not going to cut you off but I will also say this:
There is never any shame in taking steps to protect yourself. Someday in the future there may be a day where parents don’t threaten their children’s security over things like appearance/gender/sexuality but that day is not today. I know there’s this sort of romanticized lifestyle where a youth lives their identity boldly in spite of their parent’s attacks on the lifestyle but that’s ultimately dangerous and the decision to go against parents financially supporting you has to be made very seriously and with a lot of forethought. I work in housing advocacy and one thing I can’t stress more is that there is never shame in doing what you have to do to survive and keep a roof over your head and food on the table. Steps can be made to distance yourself and achieve financial independence but your primary responsibility has to be for your own safety and future.